• It’s Not Just You

It’s Not Just You

Freeing Women to Talk about Sexual Sin and Fight It Well

There's no way other women are struggling sexually like I am. Who could I even talk to about this? Isn't this a guy's issue?

For too long, Christian women have assumed they’re outliers in their sexual struggles. This assumption (along with shame) often keeps them silent, leaving them to face the battle all by themselves. But if any of this sounds familiar, you’re not the only one. Whether your struggles take the form of masturbation, pornography, same sex attraction, or sexual fantasies, it’s not just you. These temptations are common not only for men in the church, but many women, too.

So how do we fight against sexual sin as women? What do we do when there’s a disconnect between what the Bible says and how we live and feel? Or, if we lead a woman struggling in this way, how do we aid her in the battle? Written from the trenches of ministering to young women, young adult minister Ashley Chesnut explores why sexual sin is “sin” in the first place, what sex really is, and how Scripture speaks into topics like masturbation, oral sex, and sex robots—even when those words aren’t found in the Bible.

God has already won the war against sin, and as you examine His Word along with Ashley, you’ll be equipped to battle against sexual sin and to aid other sisters in the fight.

No, it’s not just you. And yes, you can take steps toward victory. Right now.

about the author

Ashley Chesnut serves as the Associate Singles 20s/30s Minister at The Church at Brook Hills in Birmingham, Alabama. She has a Master of Divinity from Beeson Divinity School and a Certificate of Biblical Counseling from Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. While Ashley has a passion for discipling young women, she also loves her city and has written a children’s book about it called Down in the Ham: A Child’s Guide to Downtown Birmingham. When she’s not at the church or meeting with girls, you can probably find her at the farmer’s market or trying some new local restaurant.

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  • isbn: 9781087713465
  • status: Not Yet Published
  • publish date: 08/03/2021
  • pages: 272
  • carton quantity: 36


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what are people saying

  • “For many women in the church carrying the burden, shame, confusion, and battle of sexual sin, this book will be a light in the darkness leading them straight to Christ. I praise God for Ashley’s willingness and obedience to do the hard work and write It’s Not Just You.” 

    Gretchen Saffles, Author of The Well-Watered Woman: Rooted in Truth, Growing in Grace, Flourishing in Faith, Founder of Well-Watered Women

  • “The problems and struggles women face on this subject are sitting in your pews every Sunday. Ministry leaders need to set aside their fear of talking about sex and begin conversations that could transform lives.” 

    Kelly King, Manager of Magazines/Devotional Publishing and Women’s Ministry Training at Lifeway Christian Resources

  • “Ashley tackles the most pressing issues of female sexuality with a refreshing directness that is matched by her tenderness and grace. You’ll want to read this book because the Gospel is on every page.”

    Dr. Tate Cockrell, Associate Professor of Counseling & Director of DMin Studies at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary