Do other women struggle sexually too? Would anyone at church understand? Isn’t this a guy’s issue? Is there any hope for me?
For too long, Christian women have assumed they’re outliers in their sexual struggles. This assumption (along with shame) often keeps them silent, leaving them to face the battle all by themselves. But if any of this sounds familiar, you’re not the only one. Whether your struggles take the form of masturbation, pornography, same sex attraction, or sexual fantasies, it’s not just you. These temptations are common not only for men in the church, but many women, too.
So how do we fight against sexual sin as women? What do we do when there’s a disconnect between what the Bible says and how we live and feel? Or, if we lead a woman struggling in this way, how do we aid her in the battle? Written from the trenches of ministering to young women, young adult minister Ashley Chesnut explores why sexual sin is “sin” in the first place, what sex really is, and how Scripture speaks into topics like masturbation, oral sex, and sex robots—even when those words aren’t found in the Bible.
God has already won the war against sin, and as you examine His Word along with Ashley, you’ll be equipped to battle against sexual sin and to aid other sisters in the fight.
No, it’s not just you. And yes, you can take steps toward victory. Right now.
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what people are saying
“For many women in the church carrying the burden, shame, confusion, and battle of sexual sin, this book will be a light in the darkness leading them straight to Christ. I praise God for Ashley’s willingness and obedience to do the hard work and write It’s Not Just You.”
“The problems and struggles women face on this subject are sitting in your pews every Sunday. Ministry leaders need to set aside their fear of talking about sex and begin conversations that could transform lives.”
“Ashley tackles the most pressing issues of female sexuality with a refreshing directness that is matched by her tenderness and grace. You’ll want to read this book because the Gospel is on every page.”
“You do not have the one stronghold God cannot defeat. You do not have the one life that does not matter. You do not have the one story God cannot use.”
“God may not take the temptation away, but He will give us the strength to face it and resist it.”
“Whether or not God takes away your temptation, He is still good, and He is still good to you.”
“Behind every sin is a lie we have believed.”
“We do not fight a losing battle because God has already won the war.”
“God made us for joy, and joy only comes from knowing Him and being known by Him.”
“The absence of sexual fulfillment does not mean that a single person is less of a human being. If that were the case, then Jesus was not fully human.”
“You have a place in God’s story no matter what your story entails.”